HOW TO GET YOUR INNER FIRE BACK.

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Have you ever felt like you are living your life in autopilot mode? Like nothing, good or bad, really matters. You just feel kind of numb. This general lack of excitment and drive is a signal that you haven’t postivitely challenged yourself lately, you’re missing your little inner fire. Something got lost on the road, and it is okay, you can find it back.

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REFLECT, REFLECT, REFLECT.

Now, before you start trying everything and nothing and printing out pinterest checklist and Marie Kondo-ing your apartment, you have to take a minute to reflect because when we get in this mode, we all tend to forget the good things we have done and focus on what we don’t have at the moment.

Take a moment to tune in with yourself. What gets YOU excited? What would you like to improve on or learn if you didn’t have to worry about limitations of any kind? What are your proudest accomplishments? What are you proud of in general?

YOU CAN WRITE THOSE DOWN, MEDITATE, GO FOR A WALK, JUST DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO TAKE THOSE PRECIOUS MINUTES AND SEE WHAT’S GOING ON.

CHANNEL THAT FEELING OF PRIDE.

Even if you cannot necessarily see it at the moment: you have accomplished stuff, big or small. It could have been simply changing that damn lightbulb that was flickering forever, to you changing job. It doesn’t matter what it is, this feeling of accomplishment is what makes us want to do more. It gets the ball rolling towards more.

SERIOUSLY, HIGH-FIVE YOURSELF, YOU ARE DOING JUST FINE.

REMOVE THE UNNECESSARY PRESSURE.

There is no race to the best person ever. Change takes time and nothing is set in stone. To make change stick, you need to be consistent to it becomes natural to you, and that is NOT easy. You may take longer or go faster than others to accomplish whatever your heart desires and that’s totally fine.

THE IDEA IS NOT TO GO THERE FAST, IT’S TO MAKE SURE IT STAYS ON THE LONG-RUN.

So if you feel anxious like you haven’t done what you wanted to, take a deep breath and remind yourself there is no deadline on a healthy mindset. Maybe you didn’t have every tool you needed to move forward at this time, but it doesn’t mean it’s not gonna change now.

GOAL SETTING IS SUPPOSED TO BE THRILLING, NOT STRESSFUL

If setting a specific goal for yourself stresses you out (and not the good kind of stress, we are talking about anxiety here), don’t set it. You’re not ready for it (yet), or you may not even want it. Make your steps reasonnable, you are not gonna because fluent in the language you have been wanting to learn in one day for example.

REMEMBER, WE ARE TRYING TO REBUILD THIS WARM SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENTS, THE TASK DO NOT NEED TO BE GIGANTIC TO GET IT.

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FOLLOW YOUR OWN STANDARDS & WAVE GOODBYE TO PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS.

LET ME LET YOU IN ON A LITTLE SECRET: YOU CAN DO ANYTHING.

Read that again.

Now that this has sunk in a bit, you can start learning to let go of people’s expectations. Your family, friends, boss, you name it. You need to hear your inner voice to guide you properly and you can’t do so with the noise of others around. People love projecting their own insecurities on others when they are talking about something new. Don’t let it kill your groove here.

EYES ON THE PRIZE MY FRIEND, AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU, AND ONLY YOU, KNOW BETTER WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU. TRUST THE PROCESS.

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HAS COVID THROWN SELF-LOVE OUT THE WINDOW?

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Initially published on a Blog By LULUS Beauty

It is no secret that many of us have been struggling since early 2020. Us too, especially the last few weeks. The vision of 2021 I was just hoping for despite it being fairly unrealistic, just faded. Covid wasn’t, after all, going to stop spreading on January 01, 2021, but I preferred to deny it for a sec!

FROM POSITIVITY TO FRUSTRATION.

Not going to lie, I was pretty positive for a while. Then, that faded too.

I feel like I am stuck in Groundhog Day, repeating the same tasks every day, not having a reason to dress up anymore, being deprived of what makes me feel alive (what I would do to just sit down on my balcony and people-watch…) and so for so damn long. And I can tell we are not the only ones.

In an attempt to bring some sunshine back, even for a moment, I decided to create a little self-love challenge through my social media. The concept was simple: dance like nobody’s watching, on the same song. It was a way for me to give women a chance to bring self-love back on the table, let loose, feel good about themselves and get a break from the covid-related news. And it really did the trick if you actually decided to follow the lead! So we started talking about it, heard many “this is so great, I love this, this is exactly what I need” and then came the moment to actually start doing it.

THIS IS WHEN OVER 70% OF PEOPLE BACKED OUT, FOR 2 MAIN REASONS :

“I’M JUST NOT FEELING IT ANYMORE”
“I DON’T HAVE THE CONFIDENCE”.

And the truth is: I feel you.

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SELF-LOVE : OUT THE WINDOW UNTIL THINGS GET BETTER?

I’ve heard it so many times when the pandemic began: take this time to take care of yourself. Discover or reinvent, who you are. Spend quality time with yourself since we are stuck anyway. And many of us were good students! We learned new things and practices that have helped us so much and all of those kept our confidence up.

BUT HOW LONG CAN YOU DO THIS FOR?

At some point, we need outside interactions. We need to go out. We’re tired of just being with ourselves. Hell, we don’t even appreciate ourselves anymore as we have seen us way too much, so, yeah, self-love, bye bye.

Here is the thing thought: this is exactly when you should double down on self-love.

IT IS WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING IT UP THAT IT IS THE MOST NEEDED.

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TAKE YOUR TIME, THERE ARE NO RULES.

If you need a few days to pause and just become a couch potatoe with greasy hair, order take-out and just contemplate life, then do it. The idea here is not to put this damn pressure or guilt around self-care and self-love. Just slowly get back to it in your own time. No need to throw yourself into a yoga or meditation challenge and sign up for a zillion online classes, you can just start by doing something as simple as washing your hair (seriously, everything is always better after a shower, don’t you think?).

YOU WILL GET THE SHY TINGLY FEELING THAT FEELS SO GOOD ONCE AGAIN.

You know, that feeling of glittery tummy? Then feed the crap out of it.

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YOU’RE NOT ALONE FEELING THIS WAY.

This challenge wasn’t a fail. Yes, we were hoping it would spread like wildfire and give a huge wave of positivity and self-love in our community and it just didn’t take. But at the end of the day, it gave us a chance to actually feel a lot less lonely. We are always encouraged to bottle up our feelings, to not make noise and be strong, because you know, thingscouldbeworselalala. But it doesn’t stop you from sulking. Which is kinda what I covered during my last post on Instagram, in case you are curious

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Saying it out loud can actually help you move forward: so if you are reading this, take a moment to just say “F********CK THIS.” Release that tension, let it OUT.

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Body Positivity || How to Love Your Body

Everybody is beautiful.

We all struggle with body image. We all have issues with certain parts of our bodies that we wish were smaller, bigger, more “in shape,” less droopy, less poochy, more…anything!

Well, I’m here to tell you that regardless of what you think you need to look like according to societal norms. There are so many women who look in the mirror and truly dislike what they see. Women are consistently comparing themselves to what they see on TV, in magazines, movies. You know exactly what I’m talking about.

Here’s what I mean:

You see a model in a magazine wearing a super cute piece of clothing (for this boudoir blog, let’s just say it’s lingerie..because obvs) and you think to yourself “Wow! She can really pull that off.” And then the second you say that to yourself, you think “I can’t.” The media is constantly throwing at us their idea of perfection and I’m here to tell you – it’s a load of shit. 

YOU ARE HOT/SEXY/GODDESS/FIRE/AMAZING.

(I hope you read that in a shouting voice in your head…because I meant it that way!)

I’ve done another blog post about Photoshop (you can read it here) and honestly, these two topics are super closely related. My job as your boudoir photography coach is to make you feel the most sexy, confident and seriously ass-kicking version of yourself possible, all while having a blast. I’m capturing a moment in time for you when you are stepping outside your comfort zone and really getting in touch with your inner goddess.

Truly see yourself and all the goddess that you are

I talk about #selflove a lot in my blog on here. In fact, every Sunday I encourage my women followers to do something that is an act of self love. Whether it’s loving your body with a nice hot bath, doing some yoga, writing in a journal, taking hot belfies (another favorite past time of mine – if you don’t know what a belfie is, then girl you definitely need to follow me), anything that gives you a reset to empower you mentally and physically.

That arch and those legs!

If you do want to change something about yourself, make sure you do it for you and no one else. Don’t do it because you think if you lose that bit of baby weight people will like you more, or if you had bigger boobs, you would be more attractive. Your body is a work of art. You only get one body, girl – love it with everything you have. Because you’re fierce in your own skin.

P.S. If you do have negative thoughts about your body, try to replace every negative thought you have with a positive one. You can read more about overcoming body image issues here.

Interested in learning more about my LULUS Beauty boudoir sessions and the packages I offer? Contact me. Looking for something unique that isn’t listed on my site? Don’t be afraid to ask! I’d be happy to set up a customized session just for you.

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Can you Photoshop that || Boudoir Questions

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I get a lot of women in my inbox asking me about boudoir sessions and posing. Specifically how I help them hide parts of their bodies they don’t love with Photoshop.

“I have a bit of a belly”, “My thighs are thick, and I don’t love that”, “My butt is non-existent”, “Can you give me bigger boobs, or do I need to wear a push up bra”, “How far out can I schedule so I have time to lose those last few pounds?” “Can you Photoshop that?”

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My answer is always the same. Lady, look here, we’re about to get real. I’m only going to say this once, and you should say it with me. You. Are. Beautiful. The. Way. You. Are. But, if you want a longer, more detailed version of my answer, here it is:

I’m not going to change your body, to make you look smaller or more like an hour glass or something you are not. What I aim to do with boudoir, and it is my job as a professional, is to help you see yourself in all of your awesomeness. The images we take together are strictly to document the way you felt while in my studio. These images should remind you of the goddess within, that fierce, strong woman you hide behind clothes and jewelry.

Interested in learning more about my Akron boudoir sessions and the packages I offer? Check out my boudoir page here. Looking for something unique that isn't listed on my site? Don't be afraid to ask! I'd be happy to set up a customized session just for you.  Here’s how you can get in touch with me:  Love Gwaltney GRA Photography Your Akron Boudoir Photographer Phone:  (234) 334-7684 love@gra-photography.com

Yes, we will take images that show your {belly, thighs, butt, boobs}, but here’s the thing, when you leave my online live session, those parts of your body will still be there, exactly as they were before you walked in. I would rather you be comfortable with your body, in its entire form: all of the curves and dips, the marks and rolls; than to show you a modified version that hides who you really are. In fact, I pose my clients in ways that empower them, and these poses create self-love for every girl. And that will last longer than any temporary pose I could ever put you in.

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My goal is to show you images – where you are doing amazing, beautiful things with those body parts you may not love – that leave you feeling like a rock star. I would never let you leave with images that look nothing like you. It just gives you something else to compare yourself to. And guess what, that’s a big no-no. Comparison is toxic. It eats away at confidence. It destroys self-love. You are a warrior woman. You have survived your life, and your body has helped you get here. Love her. Treat her right. And guess what, the first step in that is recognizing and accepting her beauty. Telling her: you are lovely. You are perfect. You are enough.

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So, the short answer is no. No I will not Photoshop 20 pounds off of you. I will not make your boobs look larger. Because you are perfect the way you are.

So when you’re ready to find your inner peace, contact me. We can schedule your luxury boudoir experience online. It’s an adventure, that’s worth the investment.

Interested in learning more about my LULUS Beauty boudoir sessions and the packages I offer? Contact me. Looking for something unique that isn’t listed on my site? Don’t be afraid to ask! I’d be happy to set up a customized session just for you.

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What the heck is self-love? || LULUS Beauty Boudoir Photography

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Self-love is the regard for one’s own happiness and well being. That means making sure that your own needs are being met, in a reasonable timeframe. Easy enough to define, right? Waaaaaay harder to implement! This is especially true if you’re a wife, mom, and/or kick-ass business woman. Let’s be honest, our ‘free time’ is basically non-existent and it’s so much easier to put the needs of literally everyone else first. So what’s a girl to do? How do you decide to stop and think of yourself first?

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Step 1: Breathe.

Life can be very overwhelming at times. I’m not going to lie, I might have to stop and tell myself to breathe at least once a day. A good deep breath might not help you check an item off your to-do list but it can most definitely help you avoid a total meltdown. In fact, I even suggest this of my clients during sessions. Specifically when they involve little ones. Sometimes, as a mother, you just need that extra 10 seconds by yourself to focus on your breathe. If you’re like me, it’s the only thing between poised, self-sufficient mom boss and total train-wreck-hot-mess-mom you feel you truly are.

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Step 2: Prioritize!

Make sure you’re putting the items you consider to be most important at the top of your list and allowing those that don’t really matter to fall to the wayside. You might be able to check everything off that list eventually, but start with the factors that mean the most to you and life will feel a lot less overwhelming. Baby steps, breaking things down into step-by-step smaller goals, is what gets me through the day. It’s what allows me to see just how productive I have been. It also keeps me from pulling all of my hair out, deserting my family, buying 22 cats, and living my life in curlers and a moo-moo.

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Step 3: Ask for help.

And accept help when it’s offered! You are a strong and beautiful woman, but it’s virtually impossible to do absolutely everything yourself. If I had to choose a single sin I was guilty of, this would be it. I absolutely hate to relinquish control of my business to anyone, including my husband. But, doing this does not mean that you are any less powerful. Just that you know where you can spend your time and add the most value, allowing others to help you with their strengths along the way. It also allows you more you time, and trust me girl, it’s very much a necessity.

Step 4: Do something for you.

Work hard, play hard. What have you done recently to celebrate your inner goddess? Girl’s night out? Hot bubble bath, glass of sparkling grape juice, wine (or whiskey, no one is judging you) and some candles? If you’re ready to really reward yourself with an experience that will make you feel sexy, empowered, and relaxed – this is for you… schedule a photo session online with me, your favorite LULUS Beauty boudoir photographer!

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Most assume that boudoir photos are taken as a gift for a partner. While the LULUS Beauty boudoir photos that I capture are most definitely an incredible present, I encourage you to think outside of that box. A boudoir session with me is the ultimate act of self-love. The experience is designed to celebrate and empower you, exactly as you are today. Curves, wrinkles, tattoos, crazy hair, all of it. Embrace the beautiful mess you are.

Interested in learning more about my LULUS Beauty boudoir sessions and the packages I offer? Contact me. Looking for something unique that isn’t listed on my site? Don’t be afraid to ask! I’d be happy to set up a customized session just for you.

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HOW TO EMBRACE YOUR CONFIDENCE AS A WOMAN | LULUS BEAUTY BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY

There’s a lot of talk out there about women’s empowerment and accepting yourself as you are, especially in the boudoir industry. But being confident in yourself isn’t just something you wake up one day and decide to do its a goal to strive for each and every day.

Letting go of your insecurities and feeling positive about who you are is a complex and ongoing process. The beauty of that process though is that you can take it one step at a time and still reach your goal.

SO, WHAT ARE A FEW THINGS YOU CAN DO ON A REGULAR BASIS TO EMBRACE YOUR CONFIDENCE AS A WOMAN?

GET OUT OF YOUR OWN HEAD.

There’s a reason people say we’re our own worst enemies. When you’re wrapped up in your own thoughts and emotions all the time, it’s easy to obsess over problems, unattainable ideals, perceived flaws, and other negative thoughts that have no business being in your headspace!

Instead of ruminating, take action to let those negatives go and exchange them for positives. Write down negative thoughts so you can look at them objectively, channel your energy into something you’re passionate about, and build a support group to help you stay focused if you start to lose faith.

PRACTICE SELF-CARE.

Part of building confidence is recognizing your own value. You can begin to do this by prioritizing your needs and engaging in self-care practices that keep you happy and healthy.

Self-care isn’t just about face masks and bubble baths though; it’s about constantly challenging yourself to truly be kind to YOU. This means doing the hard stuff too, like cutting off toxic relationships, processing your emotions in a healthy way, and putting your well-being first, even when it isn’t easy.

EXPLORE OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.

The best way to embrace your confidence? Show it off! Dont be afraid to practice your confidence by trying something new.

Focus on having fun without worrying what others think. Do something youve never done before or that you never wouldve pictured yourself doing in a million yearsjust to prove to yourself you can! The more you exercise your confidence, the more it will grow.

When you book a luxury boudoir experience with LULUS Beauty, you’re guaranteed to feel like the sexy, powerful woman that you are! Let me help remind you of your unique beauty inside and out, so you can move closer to becoming the confident woman you’ve always wanted to be.

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Debunking The Myth: Are Low Self-Esteem And Depression The Same Thing?

I decided to write about self-esteem and depression because it’s an issue that sits close to my heart. I want to say that every day is a great day for me, but the truth is – it isn’t, and that’s okay. I think it’s normal to have the odd self-esteem crisis, but what frustrates me is when I am having a bad day and an unauthorized opinion is thrown my way – you’ve got depression!

While I am grateful that I do not suffer from depression, I wanted to share the difference between self-esteem and depression because they are not the same thing. However, they are closely linked, and sometimes co-dependent. It can be said that low self-esteem is a risk factor for depression. Both of these two concepts can vary from low to high, and they can co-exist and fuel each other.

To better understand the similarities and differences, we should define both of these terms in detail and compare them.

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is your view of yourself. It covers the entirety of everything that you think you are: your flaws, positive characteristics, weaknesses, and strengths. It is being built throughout your life, and it starts in early childhood.

The way you build your self-esteem depends on your surroundings, experiences, relationships, and their outcomes, emotions, and thoughts.

It is possible to have high self-esteem when it comes to a relationship with your close family and friends, but low self-esteem when it comes to working.

Self-esteem is in relation to your feeling of self-worth and your idea of your own competency in different areas of life. Those are two different aspects of self-esteem that make the whole of your opinion about yourself and your position in the world.

People with low self-esteem are prone to addictive behavior, extreme sensibility to criticism, perfectionism, rigid thinking, trust issues, and the like.

Depression

The first thing that comes to mind when thinking about depression is feeling sad. Sadness is a big part of the depression, but this clinical state is much more than that. It also involves feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and emptiness. Some people even describe feelings of apathy.

Depression can cause irregularities in sleeping patterns, eating habits, and everyday activities. Some of the different depression disorders include:

  • Seasonal affective disorder
  • Dysthymia
  • Psychotic depression
  • Major depression
  • Post-partum depression

Depression is treated in a multitude of ways. A Healthy lifestyle and exercise has proven to help people who are suffering.

How Do Self-Esteem and Depression Compare?

Some symptoms can be observed with both people who suffer from depression and those that suffer from low self-esteem. A person can experience only one of these, a couple of them, or even all of them.

  • Addictive behavior
  • Aggressiveness
  • Self-consciousness
  • Promiscuity
  • Recklessness
  • Social withdrawal
  • Lack of functional and meaningful relationships

On the other hand, there is a considerable difference between these two issues. While low self-esteem is stable and doesn’t change if not treated, depression is more volatile. Depression can change from day-to-day.

Dealing with Low Self-Esteem and Depression

First and foremost it’s important to surround yourself with a support network of honest and understanding friends. Don’t be ashamed. Here are some of the steps you can do to keep fighting:

  • Develop the habit of checking in with yourself. Just answer the question, “how are you feeling?” Some people find it therapeutic to lead a journal.
  • Get educated. Learning about depression and low self-esteem will help you cope with it. Learning about the symptoms and signs will allow you to spot them in your own behavior and demystify your state.
  • Be persistent. Even when you feel like there is no hope, make sure you stay on your track. Hopelessness and helplessness are parts of depression, and they will get triggered once you try to rid of this state.

One of the most important things to keep in mind at all times is – both depression and low self-esteem are issues that can be treated. It cannot be done overnight, and there is no quick fix, but it is possible to solve these problems with professional help.

In my line of work I connect with women who suffer from low self-esteem and depression all the time. I’ve seen the most beautiful sparks fly from women who are going through the lowest of lows. Ladies, we are all beautiful in our own way, and it’s important to never forget that.

I can not express how grateful I am for all my supporters and for the clients who share their spirit with me during our sessions, no matter how hard life is for them at that time. I also want to ask you to reach out to a friend or family member if you think they are experiencing a level of pain. Don’t tell them they have depression or webMD their symptoms in order to diagnose. Just extend your time to them and let them know ‘I am here for you if you need me’.

5 Ways To Fall In Love With Your Body Instantly

Let’s Talk About Self Love

Self love is no easy task, in fact, some would say it’s more difficult to love yourself than it is to love other people – which is strange when you truly think about it. I mean, we see ourselves every day, we’ve grown up with ourselves, where did it go wrong? While I am a keen advocator of self-love (although I also struggle with it), I can’t help but think that it’s mainstream society which has cultured us to believe that we are never good enough. Well, to hell with that idea. It’s time to get on ‘the me train’. We’re going to start by asking ourselves two basic questions. Now,  before you answer them, start a counter and measure the time you needed to answer each of these questions. Let’s go!

What Would You Change About Your Body?

There are a couple of things, right? Maybe a couple more than you care to admit. This is a question that everybody answers pretty quickly. Moreover, this is the question that usually sparks long conversations. Now, let’s go to the next one. Time yourself and check how long it takes you to answer:

What Do You Love About Your Body?

The chances are that you spent more time pondering this question than question one. Am I right? If so, you must keep reading. These two questions are not a measure of you against someone else, generally they are designed to give you that ‘aha’ moment; one that tells you that you could and should love your body a bit (or even a lot!) more. Here is what you can do right away to make yourself feel better about the “vessel for your personality”.

Change the Way You Look at the Mirror – I see this during photography shoots online all the time. I ask a woman to check themselves out.. And they just stand there looking glum… so, don’t just stand there! Smile, blow a kiss, make a face – do something. This isn’t for a laugh – although you’ll probably have one. The point of this exercise is to help you stop objectifying your body and to remember that you are inside it. You – that awesome person who is you! And when you find her, really, what’s not to love?

Get in Touch with Your Body – To reiterate, the point of this exercise is to remember that your body is not an object to be judged by you or anybody else. A good way to remind yourself about this is to go somewhere private and to take your own pulse or listen to your heartbeat. That will definitely remind you that your body is more than just a two-dimensional image in a mirror.

Take an Objective Look at Others – Or, just stop judging, it’s not good for the soul. When you look at people from a curious and objective viewpoint you’ll truly understand the meaning of ‘imperfectly perfect’. And if you can do that and “forgive” people for their perceived flaws then you must be able to forgive yourself for yours. Don’t be so harsh. Take a long look at people around you. They look nice, don’t they? They think the same about you.

Make a List of Great Things about Your Body – Even if you really don’t like your body, there must be some things that you DO like. If nothing comes to mind, take your time. It will come to you. Once you’ve got a few,  make a list and remind yourself from time to time, especially on days you are feeling down.

Book a Boudoir Photoshoot – Other people see our beauty better than we do. Professional photographers, particularly LULUS Beauty Boudoir (yep, that’s me feeling confident:) have the ability to help women like you flourish. I do what I do because I love photographing every bit of beauty in every woman and seeing the smiles on their faces when they realize they really are beautiful – I also don’t mind the phone calls I receive from the husbands, wives and fiance’s’ who can’t help but tell me how ‘sexy’ their partner looks.

DON’T WAIT

The final piece of advice I can give you to overcome your inner self doubt is: don’t wait to slim down, look better or wait for when you’re feeling good. Beautiful people come in all shapes and sizes and there is no single ideal of beauty. Your body, and all that it is, is the only body that you will ever have, so, if you haven’t already, make peace with it and learn how to love it.

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FOR WOMEN: THE SENSUAL SELF-8 WEEK ONLINE COURSE

As a Female Empowerment Coach, I offer support, guidance and education in my sessions with clients. Every session will look different depending on what you are seeking and what challenges you are presenting with but may include the following: sex education and exploring the physiological & psychological aspects of your presenting challenges, unpacking your beliefs system and conditioning around sex/boudoir in order to make way for a more aligned sexual narrative, support with your emotions and a space to share your feelings, embodiment processes to expand your capacity to feel and be in your body during life and sex as well as boudoir, guided experiences to support you to come into your power and communicate your needs and desires and offering practices & tools to use at home to shift your intimate life into one that feels more fulfilling and in alignment with your deepest desires.

Below are the structured ways I work with women. For other enquiries, please get in contact:

A women’s journey of self-discovery and reclamation of her power, passion and sexual aliveness. 

~Are you desiring for more pleasure in your life?

~Do you have a longing for deeper love and connection to yourself & to others?

~Do you innately know that more awaits you when it comes to sex, love & relationships but don’t know how to have it?

There exists such incredible potential to have a life where you feel deeply in love with yourself, a life where pleasure, passion and sexual fulfilment are not just concepts but an everyday reality. I warmly invite you to journey with me as you discover a beautiful new way of being with yourself.

Through 1:1 guidance sessions & take home exercises, you will learn tools & skills to be an embodied, juicy & radiant woman who honours and loves all parts of herself.

Topics we may cover:

~Reclaiming Innocence: Nurturing the needs & desires of our inner child is crucial if we are to create a pleasurable life for ourselves. Learn how to access your natural curiosity for life & your body and how to connect to your erotic innocence.

~Boundaries & Taking Care of the Self: Safety is the foundation for healthy exploration with our sensuality & sexuality. We will explore the ways you can keep your self safe & supported in life through communication and embodiment tools.

~The Body & Pleasure: Our bodies are a magnificent source of wisdom & pleasure that, in this day & age of mind glorification, are far too often overlooked. We will explore the relationship to your body & how crucial this is for your overall wellbeing.

~Embodying Your Sexuality & Sensuality: Our sensuality is naturally flourishing, wanting to be expressed in all areas of our lives. We will explore the connection with your sensuality & sexuality and how this affects every area of your life.

~Relationship Foundations: Relationships are such an integral part of our lives yet many of us were not taught how to create & maintain healthy ones. We will explore the realms of conscious relating & how this relates to your current relational experiences.

~Integration: It is one thing to know how to live a juicy, pleasurable life but how do we actually integrate that knowing into the everyday? We will explore the ways to nurture and support the seeds that have been planted on your journey

Over the 8 weeks you will receive:

-1 hr Weekly guidance sessions

-Weekly check ins via email

-Ongoing support over the duration of the 8 weeks

To book, fill out this appointment form for a free 30 minute introductory session.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO EMBRACE YOUR SENSUALITY

TIPS AND TRICKS

For hundreds of years, sensuality has been related to sexuality. And even if both can be connected (when you learn to develop your sensuality, you learn to appreciate your body the way it is, which opens up your sexuality), sensuality can have a much bigger impact than leading to sex:

IT HELPS FEELING LIBERATED!

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WHAT IS SENSUALITY?

If you Google it, you will read the common definition of sensuality is:

The enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure.

But sensuality is also defined as the ability to feel in touch with all our senses: touch, smell, sight, hearing, taste and any extrasensory perceptions beyond our five commonly recognized senses.

If sensuality is often interpreted as sexuality, it is because of that one thing they have in common. PLEASURE. What can be more difficult to understand is this notion of pleasure: some things can give you sexual pleasure and others can be pleasurable without sexual desire.

Sensuality can increase your sexual behaviour but can also be about enjoying simple pleasures, such as watching a sunset, flavourful food, a massage, a perfume or any particular smell, a yoga pose, feeling the sun on your skin… Anything that makes you feel amazing in the moment but isn’t related to sex.

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO EMBRACE IT?

As women we heard it all:

“Be polite. Dress up properly. Be a good girl!” they say.

Most of us have been told to never be too loud because people will think we are hysterical. We have been told to not take too much room otherwise we are just showing off. Neither to show too much skin because we are whores if we do. So we cover ourselves up, forget how to be in touch with our femininity and let our true essence disappears. And for what? Well just to please others and fit in a mold.

NOT LOVING OUR WHOLE-SELF ENOUGH LEADS TO FRUSTRATION, JEALOUSY AND SADNESS. HOW CAN WE EXPECT TO BE HAPPY AND LIVE THE LIFE WE WANT, WHEN WE ARE FILLED WITH ALL THOSE NEGATIVE FEELINGS?

Well, learning to grow that sensual side we all have is a way to start feeling in harmony with our body, which increases our self-confidence and trust in others. And since sensuality is connected to all of our senses, it also develops our creativity, imagination and intuition (I’ll take two of those please… how can you say no to that!).

HOW CAN YOU DEVELOP YOUR SENSUALITY?

When at peace with my whole-self, I am less likely to feel stressed in my every day life. I also don’t feel the need of external validation: what people can think of me does not matter anymore. It creates a new level of self-love!

So, are you tempted to start caring about your sensuality? Or to develop it even more than you already do? Well, I do… Just writing this blog post makes me curious about what is next on my sensuality list!

So far, here is what I do to cultivate sensuality:

  • BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY: Surprise! I might be biased but this is a huge part of my life, so I cannot talk about sensuality without mentioning the art of boudoir. Come on, can you think of a more powerful tool to develop your sensuality than boudoir photography: having (pardon my french) the balls to pose half naked -or naked- and still feel badass and empowered… ? That’s what I think 🙂
  • POLE DANCE & AERIAL SILK: You maybe saw online or heard me talk about these two acrobatic activities. They are tough to do and painful but man, it’s worth it! They are both incredible for flexibility, strength and core. I train with music, create my own choreography to work on my sensuality and sexiness.
  • STRETCHING: Anything that is related to movement has a positive impact on sensuality. Gifting your body with more flexibility is very important for our physical and mental health. It keeps the muscles flexible, strong, and healthy, and we need that flexibility to maintain a range of motion in the joints and keep our body moving. We don’t know for you guys but I wanna become a sexy and healthy lover !
  • FOOD: Big foodies here! I am from South Africa, so let me tell you that you know how much food means to me. South Africa has a fabulous culinary reputation and it is for a reason: African/Indian cuisine is all about flavors, forget about salt and sugar, we are talking about explosion of aromas. I learnt to educate my palate, so when I try exquisite food, it can feel like non-sexual orgasms.
  • MAKEUP : I associate sensuality with femininity and confidence. Makeup has always been a great tool for that in my opinion. I have fun with it by creating different looks depending on how I feel. It makes me feel confident, stylish, like I have my life in order.
  • TWERK: Twerking is my most recent sensual discovery. I always wanted to learn this dance, mostly to have fun but also because I like testing things that are not well accepted in our society, things that can seem provocative. I took one class online and I was on my butt -french expression to say it blew my mind- :). I would have never expected to fall in love with it. You put all your energy and movement around your hips which makes you feel so powerful and sexy.
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NOW YOU JUST HAVE TO GO FOR IT!

“I never thought that sex was wrong, sinful, dirty. When you take away the thought of things being dirty or forbidden, then you can really enjoy your sensuality.” Gioconda Belli

We see sensuality as a way to experience a deep peace with ourselves, to feel alive and fulfill. So if you embrace it, it makes you feel like you can do anything.

THE WORLD BECOME YOUR OYSTER.

And guess what?! When you feel like you can do anything, you actually start doing stuff that make you happy and 100% yourself. It is like a magical kick in the bum!

You know what, let’s make it a little challenge: find a new way to bring your sensuality to the next level, before the end of the month.

IT DOES NOT MATTER THE ACTIVITY YOU ARE USING TO GROW THAT SENSUAL SIDE OF YOURS (SEXUALITY, DANCE, FOOD, …), THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO DO IT FOR YOU.

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